Pros and Cons of Siblings Sharing a Room

by Emma W.R. on March 16, 2016

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There are many pros and cons of siblings sharing a room.  Just like with any decision involving your children, you should get their opinions, sort of feel them out.  This is a decision that will affect the entire household so take serious time to take everything into consideration.

Pros

  • Sharing a room with a sibling will build a stronger bond between the two.
  • They will always have a companion for late night talks and schemes.
  • Parents have reported that their children who share a room tend to sleep more peacefully.
  • One particular thing I like about have your children share a room is that they learn patience and understanding of another’s feelings whether they want to or not.

Cons

  • It is definitely important for each child to have their own space. Privacy is crucial at any age.
  • No matter how well behaved your children are, conflicts will occur. If your children are sharing a room, be prepared to be a mediator on all types of issues.  Don’t take sides.
  • It is more difficult to establish boundaries and take a hands off approach when they are fighting if they share a room.
  • One major con that my parents would say after letting my sister and I share a room is that we were always up late talking when we were supposed to be asleep.

Like I said before, make this decision with your children.  Discuss respecting each other and basic rules ahead of time.  Letting your children share a room can teach them great life lessons but can also lead to many disputes.  Good luck!

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Holly October 12, 2017 at 2:54 pm

If your child plays sports or is involved in a large group activity (like band or theater), there’s a chance that they will have to share sleeping quarters with another member of the group while traveling. Kids who share a room with siblings are well-prepared to do this. (This is not an absolute, of course.)

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Mercy June 9, 2016 at 11:45 am

I shared a room with my sister for 11 years. We got along much better after we moved and had our own bedrooms. If you can give kids their own space, go for it!

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Johanna May 23, 2016 at 1:23 pm

When we moved and my kids got their own rooms it created so much peace! They drove each other – and us – nuts!

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Hennie May 9, 2016 at 2:42 pm

My kids could never share a room. They fight enough being on separate floors! Thank goodness we have enough bedrooms for all three.

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Alberta April 29, 2016 at 1:46 pm

Thankfully I was an only child. Never had to share a room! I would have hated having no privacy.

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Leah April 7, 2016 at 12:25 pm

Thankfully I had my own bedroom. I have an older brother, 3 years my senior, and I think it would have been a bit awkward to have us in the same bedroom.

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Kelly April 6, 2016 at 10:20 am

I shared a room with my older sister until I was 13 and it was great! We had an inseparable bond for years, some our funniest memories came from playing dress-up together. There’s always a good and bad side to sharing a room with a sibling, but I believe it brings the whole family closer.

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Linda Morton April 1, 2016 at 3:09 pm

I shared a bedroom with 2 sisters for many years. We all had to get along, but really my younger sister was so annoying because there was a big age gap. You learn how to deal with a less than perfect world early in life.

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Corri March 30, 2016 at 1:56 pm

My kids would fight non-stop if they shared rooms. Luckily we have enough space to keep them apart or I’d need lots of Advil.

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Oliver March 30, 2016 at 12:22 pm

I grew up as an only child so I don’t have any experience of sharing a room with anyone. I do think it would help build a closer bond between siblings, cousins, friends, etc. Hopefully, each child learns how to respect his or her roommate’s space, as they would like to be respected themselves. This will also help prepare for the future, as millions of students dorm with roommates throughout their college years, and after graduation. It would be beneficial to get comfortable with it as soon as possible.

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Sade March 24, 2016 at 3:51 pm

I had 6 siblings in my family, we shared 2 bedrooms growing up, 2 boys occupied one bedroom and 4 girls in the 2nd bedroom, we had bunk beds in each room, we all got along, no fighting, more sharing and playing together, we had lot’s of fun during our childhood and still remain as a close knit family today, so sharing a bedroom with my 3 sisters kept us close in adulthood.

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Eli March 24, 2016 at 11:02 am

In a perfect situation, each child would have his or her own bedroom and there would also be space for each parent to have room for him or herself as well. But to not have that luxury is not the end of the world. I read a lot of American history and I think back to books I have read where it describes the crowded apartments in New York City during the early part of the 20th century and how people survived. People can adapt and–what is most important–is that the right upbringing and good values that are taught to young ones can certainly overcome tough growing up years.

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Melanie March 23, 2016 at 12:28 pm

If I had to share a room with my sister it would have been a nightmare. It was hard enough just being in the same house haha

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Lisa March 21, 2016 at 2:29 pm

I grew up with 3 siblings in a small house so basically there was no discussion of should we or should we not share a room – we had no choice… and we made the best of it. There were 2 bedrooms for 4 kids so of course my brother being the only boy got his own room and us 3 girls shared one. Yes, there were arguments and imaginary lines to not cross over to the other person’s part of the room, but it also earned us a lot of fun memories. Now, as grown adults and all moved out of that house, we have all remained very close.

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